There are numerous situations when you feel it: a wish to get yourself in a fight (and just “kill” your opponent). Frequently it is about politics, religion, morals, kids (oh, the last is a biggie!) There are more subjects where we tend to have a strong opinion, an opinion, which we are eager to defend. The question is: how far should we and should we actually? Continue reading How to hold on if you want to blow up, and should you?
Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons.
Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough.
Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?
Imagine your little one, once again sitting at the dining table: knees up, playing “drums master” with her fork and plate… An immediate reaction which comes to mind is: “Stop it! Act normally!”. However, while “stop it!” (preferably with an explanation) is a perfectly appropriate phrase; saying “act normally!” is not … and here is why: Continue reading Why “Act normally!” is a bad thing to tell your kid?
If it is usually done to follow a certain path, is there any point to innovate? Why would you try to fix something that’s working? Should you pave a new road if the old one serves the purpose of getting you from point A to point B?
On one hand, wouldn’t it be better to focus on problems which don’t have any solution yet rather than try to find a better solution where there is one already? This approach could be right. On the other hand, what if you do find a more efficient solution, a shorter path or an easier way, could it be that some unsolved problems will then solve themselves? Continue reading Should you wander off the beaten path?
I believe almost everyone knows that story that if you put a frog in hot water, it will jump out, but if you put it in cold water and start slowly boiling it, eventually you will boil a frog. Subtle changes slight inconvenience, acceptable discomfort… and a frog is boiled dead. But even without going into fatalistic mode, small soft steps are efficient if you need to deal with any opposition.
Long time ago I had the “conflict” with my mother over a car. Continue reading How to boil a frog?