Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons.
Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough.
Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?
Imagine your little one, once again sitting at the dining table: knees up, playing “drums master” with her fork and plate… An immediate reaction which comes to mind is: “Stop it! Act normally!”. However, while “stop it!” (preferably with an explanation) is a perfectly appropriate phrase; saying “act normally!” is not … and here is why: Continue reading Why “Act normally!” is a bad thing to tell your kid?
If it is usually done to follow a certain path, is there any point to innovate? Why would you try to fix something that’s working? Should you pave a new road if the old one serves the purpose of getting you from point A to point B?
On one hand, wouldn’t it be better to focus on problems which don’t have any solution yet rather than try to find a better solution where there is one already? This approach could be right. On the other hand, what if you do find a more efficient solution, a shorter path or an easier way, could it be that some unsolved problems will then solve themselves? Continue reading Should you wander off the beaten path?
Have you ever seen someone passionately solving a problem that doesn’t really need to be solved in the first place?
Problems. We all have them. Some of them we are given, some others we take ourselves. There are also frequently problems which we invent ourselves. Finally, another category is problems we didn’t quite understand. The latter is an important one. Basically, what happens? We jump to searching for solutions, or even to actually investing our efforts in trying to solve a problem, while it could be that the problem has another facet. It could be that we can actually solve another problem — easier or more pleasant to solve — and the initial one just vanishes by itself.
Ok, before it gets too complicated, let me give you an example. Continue reading Problem-solving basics: Are you sure you are solving the right problem?
There are many situations when we feel it: the nasty feeling of fear. Sometimes it paralyses us so much that we start procrastinating and postponing our plans over and over again. Sometimes we don’t even understand what is it exactly that we are scared of. We just are. I guess everybody heard that there are only two inherent fears: the fear of height and the fear of loud sounds, all the rest is just something we created ourselves. Nonetheless, inherent or created, we have it; and if we have it, we need to deal with it. In this article I would like to share my approach. Continue reading How to deal with fear to be able to move on?