How many times have you faced a situation that you see a large crowd of people and turn around to go away?
I have it regularly. There were liquidation sales at a golf shop, where I really wanted to have my shopping spree. Guess what, I was not the only one. However, when I saw the line of cars, desperately trying to find a parking spot in the neighborhood, I turned around and went home. Sales will be online somewhere.
I don’t like waiting. No, let me rephrase – I actually genuinely hate waiting. I never make anyone wait for me, and I get really annoyed if someone or something doesn’t return that favor… But then again, for me, this is not the ”instant gratification” story. Not entirely. At the same time, I can perfectly work on something which will bring results far in the future (or maybe not even at all). This queue intolerance for me is the intolerance toward wasting time on apparently useless actions.
For me queueing is a waste and good operations management principles are teaching us that waste needs to be eliminated… Now, what about patience? Patience is a virtue, as the saying goes. Does it apply to any patience though? Are there different types of patience? Is patience only about being able and willing to wait? Does patience stop being a virtue if it has no truly valuable goal? Is patience for the sake of patience even healthy?
Coming back to the question in the title: so what about kids and patience? What is it exactly that we want to teach our kids, and is patience actually the right word for it?
Last week I made an unexpected observation on cultural differences. As you know the 8th of March was International Women’s Day and as you might know in Eastern Europe and especially post-Soviet countries this day is celebrated with gifts and flowers. A friend of mine, mother of two sons, on that day had to buy flowers for all the girls of their class. This made me wonder how do you go about traditions which in your perception seem senseless, but if you don’t follow them, you risk becoming an outcast? You see that friend of mine also didn’t get the point of the “exercise”, yet if she wouldn’t have bought those flowers, that would make her sons look bad.
Social pressure. Should you succumb to it if it is about traditions?
But what if the tradition is essentially wrong, ‘cos, hey, flowers are not the point of this day? These are thought-provoking questions as such. However, when I went on to investigate “public opinion” on this matter I was struck with the cultural differences it highlighted. Continue reading Reflections on a cultural code
Imagine your little one, once again sitting at the dining table: knees up, playing “drums master” with her fork and plate… An immediate reaction which comes to mind is: “Stop it! Act normally!”. However, while “stop it!” (preferably with an explanation) is a perfectly appropriate phrase; saying “act normally!” is not … and here is why: Continue reading Why “Act normally!” is a bad thing to tell your kid?
One of these days I stumbled upon a website of one little girl who was selling toys in order to collect money to follow her dream. The dream, as stated on the website, was to study in a prestigious design school and become a famous fashion designer. I loved the idea, yet it made me think about whose idea that truly was. Continue reading Who is making our choices?
Mindfulness seems like one of those buzzwords everyone seems to use, alongside “smart”, “green”, “bio”, “creativity” and so on. However, mindfulness is much more than just a word, this is a way of life. Mindfulness trains resilience, offers you better insights about your own choices and in general allows you to make much more “dear” choices. By “dear” I mean choices which truly resonate with you and inspire you to move on and achieve your goals. It reduces anxiety, improves mental health and significantly encourages optimism. Thus, mindfulness matters and benefits you in many ways. Which is more, it can bring a lot of benefits also to your little ones.This is exactly what I would like to talk about in this short post. Continue reading How do you teach mindfulness to kids? (might be handy for yourself as well)