Category Archives: Psychology

Why are we so afraid to try?

Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons. 

Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough. 

Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?

How to boil a frog?

I believe almost everyone knows that story that if you put a frog in hot water, it will jump out, but if you put it in cold water and start slowly boiling it, eventually you will boil a frog. Subtle changes slight inconvenience, acceptable discomfort… and a frog is boiled dead. But even without going into fatalistic mode, small soft steps are efficient if you need to deal with any opposition.

Long time ago I had the “conflict” with my mother over a car. Continue reading How to boil a frog?

Problem-solving basics: Are you sure you are solving the right problem? 

Have you ever seen someone passionately solving a problem that doesn’t really need to be solved in the first place?

Problems. We all have them. Some of them we are given, some others we take ourselves. There are also frequently problems which we invent ourselves. Finally, another category is problems we didn’t quite understand. The latter is an important one. Basically, what happens? We jump to searching for solutions, or even to actually investing our efforts in trying to solve a problem, while it could be that the problem has another facet. It could be that we can actually solve another problem — easier or more pleasant to solve — and the initial one just vanishes by itself.

Ok, before it gets too complicated, let me give you an example. Continue reading Problem-solving basics: Are you sure you are solving the right problem? 

How to deal with fear to be able to move on? 

There are many situations when we feel it: the nasty feeling of fear. Sometimes it paralyses us so much that we start procrastinating and postponing our plans over and over again. Sometimes we don’t even understand what is it exactly that we are scared of. We just are. I guess everybody heard that there are only two inherent fears: the fear of height and the fear of loud sounds, all the rest is just something we created ourselves. Nonetheless, inherent or created, we have it; and if we have it, we need to deal with it. In this article I would like to share my approach. Continue reading How to deal with fear to be able to move on? 

Brain fitness: your super-power activator

Healthy lifestyle includes doing some sort of regular physical exercises. That part is known. However, there is one part of your body, which is frequently overlooked, yet also requires regular training. Brain.

If you think that by solving a crossword puzzle or playing Sudoku now and then you are good, think again. All the stuff you do for fun, which does not truly challenge you or make you do something completely new, doesn’t qualify as exercising, or brain fitness as they call it. In a nutshell, brain fitness is a system which focuses on improving various aspects of your cognition, such as attention, memory, focus and even brain speed. Brain fitness is also about your diet, as there are certain foods which benefit your brain.

Let me start with the last point — food and then share some brain fitness exercises I consider useful.

Continue reading Brain fitness: your super-power activator