In one of my recent articles I talked about being afraid to make a change. I talked about the main reasons for it falling into two main categories: that we are afraid it might not work, or that we are afraid it actually might work. In this short post I would like to talk techniques. How to make that proverbial first step into the brighter future if you are still shivering from fear? Continue reading How to make the “jump” even when you are worried? Techniques to help you make a change.
There are numerous situations when you feel it: a wish to get yourself in a fight (and just “kill” your opponent). Frequently it is about politics, religion, morals, kids (oh, the last is a biggie!) There are more subjects where we tend to have a strong opinion, an opinion, which we are eager to defend. The question is: how far should we and should we actually? Continue reading How to hold on if you want to blow up, and should you?
Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons.
Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough.
Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?
I believe almost everyone knows that story that if you put a frog in hot water, it will jump out, but if you put it in cold water and start slowly boiling it, eventually you will boil a frog. Subtle changes slight inconvenience, acceptable discomfort… and a frog is boiled dead. But even without going into fatalistic mode, small soft steps are efficient if you need to deal with any opposition.
Long time ago I had the “conflict” with my mother over a car. Continue reading How to boil a frog?
Have you ever seen someone passionately solving a problem that doesn’t really need to be solved in the first place?
Problems. We all have them. Some of them we are given, some others we take ourselves. There are also frequently problems which we invent ourselves. Finally, another category is problems we didn’t quite understand. The latter is an important one. Basically, what happens? We jump to searching for solutions, or even to actually investing our efforts in trying to solve a problem, while it could be that the problem has another facet. It could be that we can actually solve another problem — easier or more pleasant to solve — and the initial one just vanishes by itself.
Ok, before it gets too complicated, let me give you an example. Continue reading Problem-solving basics: Are you sure you are solving the right problem?