Tag Archives: Psychology

Why are we so afraid to try?

Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons. 

Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough. 

Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?

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How to boil a frog?

I believe almost everyone knows that story that if you put a frog in hot water, it will jump out, but if you put it in cold water and start slowly boiling it, eventually you will boil a frog. Subtle changes slight inconvenience, acceptable discomfort… and a frog is boiled dead. But even without going into fatalistic mode, small soft steps are efficient if you need to deal with any opposition.

Long time ago I had the “conflict” with my mother over a car. Continue reading How to boil a frog?

Divorce your story: How to get rid of negative thinking

Negative thoughts. The whole world is against me. I am a total failure. I will never succeed. This is not for me. It never worked for me before. I suffered already so much. My whole life is a mess….

In several speeches Tony Robbins was saying that if you feel bad, “divorce your story!”. In one of the psychology articles I’ve read there was a lengthy explanation of how negative thinking affects our brain and body almost to the point of creating an actual physical damage. Imagine: an actual physical damage! Like – you literally break down your own body by all that negativity going through your head! Not a good thing to do, right?

The only question is: how the hell do you stop negative thinking when everything seems to just be falling at you?

Continue reading Divorce your story: How to get rid of negative thinking

Don’t procrastinate on beating procrastination

Has it happened to you that you were postponing something over and over again? Something which could have been long done, but still ends up on the new “to do list” with a new date to it…

Have you ever told yourself that you will do it, just maybe a bit later, ‘cos now is not the right moment?

Have you ever stepped back instead of making that confident and long-planned step forward?

Then probably procrastination is nothing new to you.

The bad thing is: procrastination steals your time and eventually kills your drive on the way to your goals.

The good thing is: you can beat it fairly efficiently. Unless you procrastinate on doing that…

So let’s review some simple life hacks which can get you out of your deep procrastinator’s hole and onto the road to success in whatever you set your mind for.

Continue reading Don’t procrastinate on beating procrastination

Time: why does it run faster as we age and can we slow it down?

Our youngest kid started school last week… (pause)

Allow me to repeat it once again as I still don’t believe it myself:

our. youngest. kid. started. school. last. week.

The moments like that make you think about time and how fast it flies by. It seems that when we were kids the period from September till Christmas was impossibly long. And look at us now… It is almost Christmas, when the first of September was last week, wasn’t it? But is it actually true: does time fly faster or is it yet another trick our brain is playing on us? If the latter is the case, can we “play back” and slow the lapse of time?

Continue reading Time: why does it run faster as we age and can we slow it down?