A couple of days ago I was using my husband’s iPad to show cartoons to our kids on YouTube. Now when he goes on YouTube he is bombarded with new episodes of “Fixies” and “Octonauts”. Yesterday I accidentally clicked on an ad for some sort of a desk decor and today this desk decor is “attacking” me from every ad space there is. Targeting in action. I got it. Seems to be based on my interests, right? But is it? Doesn’t it look like someone makes an assumption about my interests and defines a “frame” for me to fit in? Can I still choose “yellow”, if someone tries to direct (read: limit) my choice to “red or blue”?
Making a change and trying something new is scary, but it can be scary for different reasons.
Even when the status quo does not appeal to us anymore, even when we envision the change, we might hesitate right at the very start. Why so? Shouldn’t we be ready as soon as we create the mental picture? Not necessarily. Sometimes the trap is exactly in that mental picture. It seems so real, and we live it through in our head, so that it… becomes enough.
Ironically, executing change might be stalled for two contrary reasons: Continue reading Why are we so afraid to try?
I believe almost everyone knows that story that if you put a frog in hot water, it will jump out, but if you put it in cold water and start slowly boiling it, eventually you will boil a frog. Subtle changes slight inconvenience, acceptable discomfort… and a frog is boiled dead. But even without going into fatalistic mode, small soft steps are efficient if you need to deal with any opposition.
Long time ago I had the “conflict” with my mother over a car. Continue reading How to boil a frog?
Negative thoughts. The whole world is against me. I am a total failure. I will never succeed. This is not for me. It never worked for me before. I suffered already so much. My whole life is a mess….
In several speeches Tony Robbins was saying that if you feel bad, “divorce your story!”. In one of the psychology articles I’ve read there was a lengthy explanation of how negative thinking affects our brain and body almost to the point of creating an actual physical damage. Imagine: an actual physical damage! Like – you literally break down your own body by all that negativity going through your head! Not a good thing to do, right?
The only question is: how the hell do you stop negative thinking when everything seems to just be falling at you?
Has it happened to you that you were postponing something over and over again? Something which could have been long done, but still ends up on the new “to do list” with a new date to it…
Have you ever told yourself that you will do it, just maybe a bit later, ‘cos now is not the right moment?
Have you ever stepped back instead of making that confident and long-planned step forward?
Then probably procrastination is nothing new to you.
The bad thing is: procrastination steals your time and eventually kills your drive on the way to your goals.
The good thing is: you can beat it fairly efficiently. Unless you procrastinate on doing that…
So let’s review some simple life hacks which can get you out of your deep procrastinator’s hole and onto the road to success in whatever you set your mind for.