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Six steps to avoid burnout even when you face a lot of stress

Stress and burnout: very frequently those two go hand in hand. If you are constantly exposed to a lot of stress that will eventually lead you to burnout. But will it? Burnout only seems like an unavoidable consequence of stress, yet it is not always the case. What is crucial is not how much stress there is in your life, but rather how good you are at managing this stress.

There are several steps or attention points which can significantly improve your stress-managing abilities. To begin with, Continue reading Six steps to avoid burnout even when you face a lot of stress

I’ve got the power: My 5 main secrets to staying energetic

Have you ever heard somebody ask: “How do you have energy to do all that?” Have you ever asked that question yourself to somebody else? It’s not even a matter of having enough time. You can always find time if you are actively searching for it. “I have no time” is just an excuse. On the other hand, “I have no energy” is a problem. Luckily it is usually a problem that has a solution.

To begin with, if you constantly feel as if somebody “pulled out the plug”, it might make sense to check your health. Pay attention to your levels of B12 vitamin, vitamin D, check your thyroid and bowels; as well as eliminate diabetes. Just to make sure. If everything is fine with your body, then the problem must lie in your head. The good news – it is solvable; the bad news – there is no magic pill, you have to work at solving it yourself.

It is normal that energy levels fluctuate as long as you make sure you are not completely drained out. I have touched upon the importance of having a balance between what gives you energy and what takes your energy away in my previous post Work-life balance when you don’t have a salaried job. There I also gave some examples of how I replenish my energy. I will not repeat them, but today I would like to focus on what I do to make sure that my energy is not drained in the first place. So here we go:Saving your energy

  1. I choose my battles. I cannot emphasize this hard enough! I don’t waste my energy on having arguments for the sake of arguments, or on trying to persuade somebody that he or she is wrong and I am right. We all have opinions. Things are rarely black and white. However, if you have a strong opinion about something it is very easy to get overly emotional about it and literally put all your energy in trying to persuade someone. The catch is – most of the times that someone will not change his mind irrespective of your arguments. So next time you start a lengthy heated debate about, for example, politics or breastfeeding or anything else, think about how much energy you are now going to waste and to achieve what? The same with – next time you get frustrated with your kids making a mess in a room that took you 2 hours to clean, just relax and make yourself some coffee. With a chocolate. And don’t share the chocolate.
  2. I don’t compare. I don’t compare my kids to those of other people. I don’t waste my energy worrying that my kids don’t fit some strange norms for example.I don’t compare my own life to somebody else’s. What’s the point? Related to that number 3
  3. I stand by my choice. If there is something I haven’t decided yet, I will of course spend time and energy on it (though trying to make that decision fast so that energy is not drained for too long). However once I have decided, I don’t come back to doubting. And which is even more important – I don’t regret.
  4. I know what I want and I know my values. I might still have some not completely clear issues or vague time frame, yet overall I already took my moment (and still take it on a regular basis) to ask myself the question to which “port” am I “sailing to” and why. And if I have the answers, which I do, then see the previous two points! No comparing and no regrets.
  5. I keep a positive focus. There are moments in everyone’s life when all things seem to be falling apart. There are those days when you are under the impression that everybody just conspired to make you explode. Vent and move on. Don’t allow one bad afternoon to turn into a bad week. Try the positive game, try to notice every time there is a negative thought and consciously eliminate it. It will not be easy until it becomes easy (giggle).

I get physically exhausted on a regular basis and there are days when my two little ones make my life “very difficult”. Still, I will be physically tired, but not emotionally empty. My energy levels might drop but will never drop to zero just because I always pay attention not to waste my energy and to replenish it on a regular basis.

Work-life balance when you don’t have a salaried job

What defines “work-life” balance? And can we speak of a “work-life” balance of a stay-at-home mother that doesn’t have a salaried job?

On one hand, somebody might say that all she has is “life”. However, on the other, I’d bet many stay-at-home mothers strongly believe that all they have is “work” with a tiny speck of “life” on it. The funny thing – there is a grain of truth in both statements. If it energizes you or relaxes you even household chores can qualify as “life”. And at the same time, if your toddler drives you crazy with yet another hysterical outburst that accounts for “work” on your balance. Thus, I guess more accurate would be to talk about a balance between “what drains your energy?” and “what replenishes your energy?”. And this is very relevant for everybody whether you do have or do not have a salaried job, and actually in general whether you are a mother or not.

We need energy to stay alive. We need nutrition for our bodies and, maybe even more importantly, we need nutrition for our minds and soul. Same as with food our taste for, so-to-say, “moral energy” differs. The only thing that is constant is that we really truly need it, otherwise sooner or later we will break down… And if this happens to a mother it is a disaster for a whole family.

Did you pay attention to the security information announced before every flight? “In case of a sudden loss of cabin pressure… <…> Passengers traveling with small children should put on their own oxygen mask first“. It might be somewhat counter-intuitive, because you as a mother, are focused first of all on the safety and well-being of your kids, your kids are the most important thing in life and that’s true. Yet, what is also true is that your kids need you and if you break down that’s going to be a tragedy for them. I wouldn’t want that my kids experience this so I make sure my energy is replenished.

Personally, I get energy:

  • when I create: a new poem, a new cake, a new embroidery…;
  • when I go to an opera or a theater, or at least listen to some good old Bach or Mozart;
  • when I play golf;
  • when I lie in a jacuzzi in a SPA-center;
  • when I have my second cup of coffee in the morning (first one is usually a ristretto or a dopio that is consumed in a moment and serves the only purpose of opening my eyes, but the second one is a latte that I enjoy without a hurry);
  • when I read a good book;
  • when I play with Lego-blocks together with my kids. Yes! That is so zen!
  • I am not a religious person, but somehow and especially when I am traveling, I like to get into a church and sit there for a little while. It also gives me sort of energy. Maybe it is because of the special aura of a church, or maybe it is because the huge Gothic construction of a lot of European churches makes you realize how a human being is simultaneously tiny compared to all this greatness and magnificent because he in fact co-created this greatness (and here I am purely talking about admiration of an architectural beauty).
  • sometimes even just having a long walk with a kid in a buggy (preferably with a sleeping (!) kid in a buggy)…

There are lots of ways how energy can be replenished, but most importantly it has to be replenished. For everybody. And especially for a stay-at-home mother who does have a lot of stuff that drains her energy out.

So don’t forget to put on your own oxygen mask when there is a loss of cabin pressure and… preferably before it gets too late.

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